It’s the time of year when high schoolers go to prom, when they live out their last moments as seniors and prepare for graduation.
Facebook is filled with prom photos: beautiful dresses, beautiful girls, guys wearing matching tuxes and smiles. So many smiles.
I didn’t have a traditional highschool experience. I stopped attending public school early in my sophomore year and, though I did graduate and receive a high school diploma through my local public school, I did not have the opportunity to experience any of the typical highschool festivities.
All I know of prom is from what I’ve seen on television and in movies. What’s it like to plan out outfits, get all dressed up and spend a night with your friends and classmates dancing? Would I have had fun?
I didn’t get to participate in my highschool graduation ceremony either.
The first time I walked across a stage to receive an educational achievement was last summer after I had earned my first college degree. I didn’t feel excited. I felt nervous and overwhelmed with emotion.
Would I have felt differently had I gotten to walk for my high school diploma? Would it have been more exciting?
These are some of the things I think about when I see images of prom and graduation presented. There’s a bittersweet feeling that I missed out.
I also wonder how I will deal with my two daughters as they grow up and enter high school. I am so very unprepared to assist them in typical high school life, including prom and all that goes with it.
It’s so easy to get caught up in these thoughts. In these feelings that I am somehow missing something by not having a traditional high school experience.
If I take a moment and step back from my feelings, I can see that while I may not have traditional highschool experiences to share with my daughters, I have experiences to share with them none the less.
Very little of my life experience has been “traditional.” My experiences differ greatly from the mainstream in ways that expand far before and beyond high school. While this may bring up feelings of “missing out”, in reality I just took a different path than many of my high school classmates.
It doesn’t make my path nor my experiences any better or worse than those of the mainstream. Both are valid paths. I simply took the one less traveled.